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SpeakerDo you have trouble making friends? Unsure how to make others like you?
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SpeakerYou want to show others how likable you are, but they have to see what's great about you in subtle ways.
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SpeakerHow will they know you're interested in them?
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SpeakerWhat will make them want to get to know you more?
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SpeakerWhat subtle things make someone start liking you as a person?
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SpeakerWant me to let you in on a secret?
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SpeakerYou have some pretty interesting and great qualities but others just don't know about them yet.
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SpeakerSo to help you with that, here are six tips to make others like you.
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SpeakerNumber one, ask questions to show your interest.
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SpeakerDo you forget to ask follow-up questions to whom you're speaking with?
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SpeakerYou're in a deep discussion and you're definitely interested in what they have to say, but how can they know you are?
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SpeakerSocial psychologist and professor at James Madison University, Natalie Kerr, wrote in a Psychology Today article
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Speakerthat research shows that people who ask more questions during conversations are perceived as more responsive and are better liked by conversation partners.
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SpeakerA good point indeed.
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SpeakerWouldn't you get the impression that your friend is actually interested in your story, if they ask to hear more?
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SpeakerThe next trick is to actually actively listen to them and ask follow-up questions, when you're curious about something.
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SpeakerNumber two, show you're trustworthy and keep your promises.
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SpeakerAre you trustworthy?
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SpeakerDo you keep your promises? Big and small.
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SpeakerAccording to research, trustworthiness is very important to others when it comes to relationships.
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SpeakerA 2007 research study from researchers at the University of Singapore, Arizona State University and the University of Florida
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Speakerfound that trustworthiness was an extremely important value in relationships for people.
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SpeakerThe study states: Across different measures of trait importance and different groups and relationships, trustworthiness was considered extremely important for all interdependent others.
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SpeakerSo next time you make a promise, it's a good idea to keep it, it will show others you are trustworthy and they may just like you more for that too.
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SpeakerNumber three, give genuine compliments.
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SpeakerWhen you think of something nice about someone, do you often let them know? Do you compliment others when you get the chance?
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SpeakerIt may just make someone's day.
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SpeakerThe reward theory of attraction is a good example of how others may start to like you more when you make them feel better.
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SpeakerThe theory states that people will like those who they associate rewarding events with or if your behavior makes them feel rewarded, then they'll like you more for it.
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SpeakerIf you're often in a good mood and in turn make them feel better, that's a reward.
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SpeakerIf you don't shy away from complimenting them when they've done something kind, that's a reward.
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SpeakerThey'll simply feel better being around you.
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SpeakerNumber four, let them know you exist and be around them more often.
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SpeakerDo you want someone to like you?
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SpeakerWell, they first need to know you exist.
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SpeakerAccording to the mere-exposure effect, the more we're repeatedly exposed to something, the more familiar we become with it.
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SpeakerAnd people will start to prefer the very thing they're more familiar with.
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SpeakerSo make yourself be heard and seen.
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SpeakerStay around for those coffee conversations during lunch break, invite some people out to an event you're going to.
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SpeakerLet people develop familiarity with you.
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SpeakerNumber five, befriend their friends.
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SpeakerIf you have a shared friend, you already have something in common and perhaps an easier way to get to know someone.
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SpeakerThis is similar to the triadic closure.
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SpeakerIf there are connections A to B and B to C, then there is a likelihood of the connection from A to C to be created as well.
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SpeakerSo if you really want to be friends with someone and realize you know someone they're friends with, let them know.
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SpeakerYou'll not only have something simple that both relate to, but you may also have a better chance of becoming friends with that person as well.
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SpeakerAnd number six, let them know you like them or enjoy their company.
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SpeakerHow often do you let others know you like them?
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SpeakerPeople have an easier time liking someone who likes them back.
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SpeakerSo let them know you appreciate them.
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SpeakerLet them know you enjoy their company or give them a hug or a wave when you see them next.
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SpeakerThey'll have an easier time liking someone who they know genuinely appreciates and likes them back.
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SpeakerWouldn't you want to know if they liked you?
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SpeakerSo which tips will you use when making new friends?
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SpeakerHow will you let others know you appreciate them?
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SpeakerWill you give out genuine compliments when you think of them?
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