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Speakerhey Psych2Goers! Welcome back to another video.
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SpeakerHave you ever wondered if you're surrounded by the right people?
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SpeakerPerhaps there are people in your inner circle of friends who are only around when they need something.
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SpeakerMaybe you find that they always seem to agree with everything you say and do, or maybe they always like the same thing as you.
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SpeakerIt's difficult to know whether someone is a truly nice person or not, especially if they always disguise themselves as such around you.
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SpeakerBecause of their seemingly nice behavior, a lot of fake people get away with being labeled as good despite their toxic habits.
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SpeakerSo to help you figure out whether the people in your life are really good for you, here are six common traits of fake nice people.
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SpeakerNumber one, they only respect people with power.
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SpeakerHave you ever noticed someone acting extra nice, when meeting people with a relatively high social status?
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SpeakerIt's normal to behave differently when interacting with people of a higher status.
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SpeakerFor example, you wouldn't treat the Queen of England the same way as you treat your friends.
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SpeakerHowever, if you notice that change in behavior is too drastic, chances are that person is a fake nice person.
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SpeakerAs a general rule, you should always judge a person by how they treat their subordinates, not their seniors.
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SpeakerBy applying this general rule, you may just be able to determine whether someone is a truly nice person or just someone who is interested in other people's power and status.
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SpeakerNumber two, they pretend to try to please everyone.
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SpeakerDo you know someone who puts an incredible amount of effort into pleasing everyone? Because they want everyone to like them.
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SpeakerThey can't stand the idea of being rejected.
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SpeakerThis need to please everyone will make them say yes to anything and everything that is asked of them, which often leads to them being labeled as nice and friendly,
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Speakerbut often times you'll find that they can't actually come through with their promises,
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Speakerwhether it's because they've made too many promises to too many people or because they don't feel motivated to fulfill what they had said.
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SpeakerPeople like this tend to disappoint in the end.
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SpeakerNumber three, they desperately seek attention.
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SpeakerAre you friends with someone who always needs attention before doing something nice?
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SpeakerFake nice people are always desperate for attention, so they'll tend to do things to receive praise.
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SpeakerIn contrast, genuinely nice people aren't motivated by external factors such as other people's approval or attention.
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SpeakerInstead, they're motivated by internal values. So they'll do good things and help others because they want to.
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SpeakerIf you notice that your friends stop doing nice things when you don't praise them for it, then it might be a sign that their behavior is not genuine.
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SpeakerNumber four, they gossip and talk behind your back.
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SpeakerDo you have a friend who's always gossiping and talking behind people's backs?
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SpeakerWhile everyone has the right to express their opinions and say what they think,
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Speakergossiping and talking about someone behind their back is a harmful way of attacking and damaging someone's reputation and character.
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SpeakerInstead, people who are genuine tend to express their emotions openly and are willing to talk through their disagreement with the person they're opposed to.
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SpeakerNumber five, they disappear when you need them the most.
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SpeakerCan you think of a friend who is never around when you need them the most? This is a very common trait among people who are fake.
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SpeakerThey tend to be there for you only when they need something from you, but never the other way around.
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SpeakerWhether it's asking you for a favor or wanting to take part in your success, fake nice people will only treat you well when it's convenient and beneficial for them.
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SpeakerSo you might want to avoid people like this, if you don't want to end up in a one sided relationship where you are constantly taken for granted.
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SpeakerAnd number six, they avoid questions about themselves.
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SpeakerHave you ever talked to someone who constantly avoided answering questions about themselves?
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SpeakerFake people tend to put an extraordinary amount of effort into avoiding any type of personal questions.
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SpeakerThe reason for this has to do with their general goal of wanting to be liked by everyone around them.
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SpeakerBy not answering any personal questions, they effectively avoid the risk of giving you the wrong impression or opinion of them.
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SpeakerSo instead, they may try to redirect the question towards you and then agree with whatever you say.
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SpeakerDo any of these traits describe someone you know? Let us know in the comments below.
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SpeakerUltimately, it's always important to go with your gut.
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SpeakerAll the points we've mentioned gives you a general idea of what fake nice people might do in different situations.
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SpeakerBut in the end, it all depends on how you feel about them.
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SpeakerAs always, the references and studies used in this video are added in the description below.
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SpeakerThanks for watching and see you in our next video.