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SpeakerIt's not easy to read someone's body language,
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Speakerespecially if you're unsure or not expressive.
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SpeakerExperts agree that communication is 80% of our body language and not what we say.
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SpeakerBody language is a way in which we can get an understanding of how someone truly feels.
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SpeakerSo how can you read someone's body language more efficiently? Let's explore that.
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SpeakerHere are six ways to read someone's body language.
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SpeakerNumber one. Recognize their normal behavior and personality first.
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SpeakerYou can't read someone effectively if you don't know how they normally act first.
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SpeakerEach of us have our own unique mannerisms and behaviors that reflect our personality.
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SpeakerIt's important to get a baseline for how someone acts before jumping to conclusions.
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SpeakerIf you notice someone is nervously tapping their foot at your party,
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Speakerdoes that mean they have something to hide, or do they just not like parties or simply have a habit of tapping their foot?
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SpeakerFocus on where their eyes go.
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SpeakerWhen in a discussion with someone pay a little attention to the direction their eyes are lingering.
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SpeakerAre they focused on you?
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SpeakerAre they observing the room? Are they looking at their feet?
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SpeakerIf someone is giving you their full attention, they're likely interested in what you have to say.
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SpeakerIf they're staring you down though, with a bit of a furrowed brow,
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Speakerthen they may be a bit upset or trying to intimidate you.
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SpeakerOf course, when someone often drifts their gaze from your eyes, they may be distracted or hoping for the conversation to end
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Speakerand some people simply don't like maintaining eye contact for too long.
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SpeakerSo this is why it's important to know someone's normal before you jump to too many strong conclusions.
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SpeakerHow often does this person you're talking to blink?
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SpeakerIf someone is rapidly blinking, they may feel uncomfortable with the conversation.
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SpeakerPupil size can be a key sign into whether someone is interested in what you have to say.
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SpeakerOur emotions can cause our pupils to change in size.
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SpeakerWhen someone has very dilated eyes, that may show that they're highly interested in what you have to say or even attracted to you.
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SpeakerJust pay attention to the lighting of the room before you jump to conclusions - the pupils could be dilated simply due to a dimly lit room.
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SpeakerNotice their posture, how someone holds themselves can reveal a lot about them.
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SpeakerMaybe they hold their head high because they've had a good day or maybe they're slumping in their seat because they didn't quite get a full night's sleep.
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SpeakerNotice if someone holds their head high in a manner of confidence or maybe they have a strong ego and puff out their chest.
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SpeakerJudith Orloff, MD, notes that walking in an indecisive manner with your head low and cowered could be a sign of low self esteem in some cases.
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SpeakerPosture can reveal much on how someone is feeling for the day too.
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SpeakerSo keep an eye out if they're falling asleep in their chair during class.
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SpeakerSafe to say they're sleepy.
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SpeakerWhat are their lips doing? Another way to get a read on someone is to be aware of their lips, and what they're doing when they aren't the ones talking.
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SpeakerIf they're biting their lip or chewing their bottom lip, they could be nervous or worried.
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SpeakerIf someone's mouth is parted faintly, then they're likely comfortable and relaxed.
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SpeakerA sign of fear can be when one's lips quiver. This could also be a sign that they're feeling sad.
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SpeakerCompressed lips could mean they're a bit uneasy with the situation,
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SpeakerPursed lips could also mean they disapprove of what's going on around them or that they don't trust you.
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SpeakerBiting their own lips could also mean that they're flirting with you.
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SpeakerPay attention to what they're wearing, according to personality psychologist at the University of Texas, Sam Gosling,
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Speakerwe should notice what people choose to tell us about their appearance.
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SpeakerGosling calls these signs identity claims and they can include little things like what we wear - tattoos, bumper stickers to even our screensaver.
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SpeakerGosling explains that identity claims are deliberate statements we make about our attitudes, goals, values, etcetera.
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SpeakerThese are deliberate choices. So pay attention to what people want to convey about themselves.
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SpeakerLook out for particular facial expressions.
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SpeakerThere are a few common facial expressions that can give way to what someone is really thinking or feeling.
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SpeakerWhen someone's jaw is clenched and they grind their teeth, that can be a sign of tension.
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SpeakerSomeone may feel bitter, angry or contempt if their lips are pursed - deep frown lines forming:
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Speakeryou can bet they're worried or over thinking.
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SpeakerWant to know if someone is genuinely smiling and delight? Look for what is called the Duchenne smile.
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SpeakerAccording to health line, this occurs when the zygomaticus major muscle lifts the corners of your mouth at the same time
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Speakerthe orbicularis oculi muscles lift your cheeks and crinkle your eyes at the corners.
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SpeakerBasically it's the type of smile that reaches up to your eyes,
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Speakercausing those wrinkles by your eyes known as crow's feet to appear.
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SpeakerThis type of smile appears when someone is genuinely happy as opposed to a polite and kind smile or even a forced smile.
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SpeakerAnd there could be an easier way to interpret different smiles.
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SpeakerCardiff University's Magdalena Rychlowska, and her colleagues of researchers, developed a classification of smiles and their effect on others.
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SpeakerWith the help of a complex modeling program used in 2017.
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SpeakerWhen you're giving positive feedback, you can often show what Rychlowska calls the reward smile.
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SpeakerThis is when your lips are naturally pulled directly upwards,
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Speakeryour eyebrows lift and you form small dimples at the sides of your mouth.
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SpeakerThe dominant smile is used when one communicates friendship and liking. This includes pressing your lips together along with an appearance of small dimples.
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SpeakerIf you happen to notice someone you've been recently talking to using the dominant smile,
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Speakerthey may just be trying to tell you that they want to be your friend.
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SpeakerIf you watched all the way, hopefully this was a good 101 body language crash course for you.
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SpeakerWe also have a video here on signs someone is highly attracted to you.
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SpeakerFeel free to check it out.