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SpeakerWho hasn't watched at least one movie or show where the smart one piques your interest?
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SpeakerFrom Sherlock Holmes to Shikamaru Nara, the highly intelligent have been sought after.
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SpeakerThe aloof, intelligent person who unwittingly captivates the hearts of people around them is a popular trope in films.
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SpeakerDespite that, they're also often depicted as being incredibly unlucky in love
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Speakerand this doesn't only happen in movies, but also in real life.
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SpeakerBut why? Here are six reasons why highly intelligent people struggle with love.
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SpeakerNumber one, they overthink.
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SpeakerWhen it comes to the popular notion of love, we tend to think of feeling what's right and just following your heart into the sweet mist of romance.
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SpeakerAnd there is absolutely no way that an intelligent person is going to stumble around blindly.
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SpeakerThey're going to analyze the details and compare the information to trusted standards before they make a big decision.
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SpeakerIs it great for data? Yes.
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SpeakerIs it wise for the long term? Yeah.
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SpeakerIs it good for enticing and starting a passionate relationship? Not quite.
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SpeakerIt can be exasperating for some leading them to mistake the time taken to analyze means for disinterest on the part of the intelligent person.
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SpeakerIn a tragic irony, the intelligent person means the opposite.
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SpeakerBy taking this time to study, plan and review, they're deeming their love interest as worthy and desirable.
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SpeakerThat analytical effort is to ensure a best chance of success for the relationship.
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SpeakerIf there is no interest or a low valuation, they wouldn't bother.
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SpeakerNumber two, they love their independence.
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SpeakerThis is one of the problems with the Hollywoodized version of love.
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SpeakerIt's this whole "You complete me" concept implying someone is less of a person if they don't find that other half.
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SpeakerIt encourages co-dependence and indirectly deride self-sufficiency.
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SpeakerHighly intelligent people are usually secure in who they are and already feel whole.
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SpeakerThey don't require another person to complete the picture.
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SpeakerThey feel another person could add to the picture and make it better.
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SpeakerThis can be interpreted by others as "this person just doesn't want me".
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SpeakerIn truth, this just means that they don't unnecessarily burden their partner.
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SpeakerFor example, the intelligent person understands their happiness is their own responsibility, not their partner's.
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SpeakerNumber three, they prioritize their goals.
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SpeakerThis doesn't mean that they think their goals are more important than their partners, it just means that they get things done.
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SpeakerThey won't be halfway to a goal than abandon it suddenly to get swept into a romance.
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SpeakerThey can also see that some goals require a lot of attention in time, which means that relationships would have to be put on the backburner until the goal is done.
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SpeakerThey may not want to have relationships at all until they've crossed the finish line.
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SpeakerIntelligent people rather be single than have a partner who is not of the same mindset
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Speakeror is impatient because they don't want to end up in an unsupportive and bitter situation.
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SpeakerNumber four, they have high standards.
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SpeakerWell, high in itself is a fairly subjective term,
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Speakerbut suffice to say, most intelligent individuals will have some pretty definite standards.
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SpeakerThey're usually demanding more of themselves, and as such, they will usually have pretty strong boundaries and a definite standard for their partner.
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SpeakerAlthough the standard can have some small adjustments as they mature,
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Speakerit never does a nosedive.
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SpeakerThey'd usually prefer surfing through life solo, then settling for a substandard relationship.
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SpeakerNumber five, they think with their heads, but not their gut.
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SpeakerThe intelligent person tends to lean very heavily on the cold logic. You know, like Spock.
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SpeakerThey won't even follow a gut instinct if they can't suss out the bits of evidence or clues that contribute to it.
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SpeakerSo when it comes to falling in love,
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Speakerthe intelligent person often will hit the brakes asking, wait, why do I feel this way?
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SpeakerThey might mentally go through all of their favorite movies and consider any influences in their life to try to find a reason.
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SpeakerThey'll likely then analyze to see if those influences provide good proof, then they'll consider making their first move.
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SpeakerAs you can imagine, it's not exactly the smoothest or timely ist of ways to get passionate.
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SpeakerAnd number six, they are single by choice.
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SpeakerTogether with being in harmony, Happiness and peace with themselves,
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Speakerthis means they aren't desperately seeking someone else to fulfill their basic needs or to help them figure out who they are.
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SpeakerThey have the luxury of already having a good time on their own and coming up with new ways to do so.
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SpeakerAt the far end of the spectrum, sometimes they just can't find someone who they feel will add to their world,
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Speakerso they choose to be with the one person who truly gets them, themselves.
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SpeakerLove in and of itself has so many aspects,
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Speakerbut we in general tend to be heavily influenced by how it's depicted in media and build our ideals of how it's supposed to happen on that.
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SpeakerUnfortunately those that don't follow that particular popular format tend to struggle.
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SpeakerNext time that cute geek is awkward around you, consider that it might be a compliment to your worthiness.
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SpeakerWhich point can you relate to? What insights have you clinged?
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SpeakerDoes something that's been happening make more sense now?
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SpeakerThanks for watching and see you soon