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SpeakerHey Psych2Goers, we're talking about relationships today.
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SpeakerSometimes people can get stuck in super toxic relationships but not realize it until after they're out.
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SpeakerThese relationships can drain you and make you feel like a shell of yourself.
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SpeakerNo matter what your relationship status is, it's really important to know what a strong, healthy relationship looks and feels like.
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SpeakerAre you curious if your relationship is a strong one?
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SpeakerWe're going to explore eight things that strong relationships have in common.
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SpeakerLet's go, number one.
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SpeakerYou can openly communicate with your partner.
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SpeakerLet's start at the beginning, you meet someone and want to get to know them a little better.
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SpeakerHow do you do that? You communicate,
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Speakeryou talk about your likes and dislikes, interests, hobbies and you ask them the same to get to know them better.
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SpeakerThat shouldn't stop once you're actually in the relationship though.
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SpeakerWhen you're in a strong relationship, you should be able to discuss anything with your partner when you're in a strong relationship.
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SpeakerNot only can you talk about these things with your partner,
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Speakerbut they can also come to you with anything as well.
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SpeakerNumber two, you're an individual in a relationship,
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Speakeryou are not the relationship. When you get in a new relationship,
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Speakerdo you take on a whole new persona?
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SpeakerDo you stop doing things you like stop hanging out with your friends?
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SpeakerYou start picking up habits and hobbies that your partner likes,
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Speakerbut you don't, this is a sign of an unhealthy relationship when in a relationship,
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Speakerdropping everything in your life for your partner can be a sign of an unhealthy attachment style.
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SpeakerIn a strong relationship, you should still be you.
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SpeakerThat's why they liked you in the first place.
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SpeakerBoth individuals should still maintain their own identity while creating couple likes and hobbies to share.
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SpeakerNumber three, you respect one another. Respect does not equal agreement.
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SpeakerYou are not required to agree with your partner or their opinions 100% of the time,
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Speakerbut you do need to respect them and their opinions.
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SpeakerOther ways you can show respect in a relationship
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Speakerare listening to each other,
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Speakerforgiving each other for small mistakes,
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Speakermaking room in your life for them while still allowing them to be their own person and respecting their boundaries.
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SpeakerDoing these things will ensure your partner feels loved and cared for and it will help strengthen the relationship.
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SpeakerNumber four, you show affection to each other.
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SpeakerHow do you like to be shown affection?
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SpeakerHow does your partner like affection?
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SpeakerIs it an act of service
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Speakerlike preparing lunch? Or maybe physical touch?
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SpeakerHow does your partner like to be shown they matter? If you're curious about you or your partner's love language,
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Speakercheck out our breakdown of the five love languages.
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SpeakerOnce you figure it out, try it out and notice how your partner responds.
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SpeakerNumber five,
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Speakeryou support each other. Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner downplayed your accomplishments?
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SpeakerMaybe you've been in a relationship where your partner needs to one up your achievement.
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SpeakerThis is a sign of a toxic relationship.
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SpeakerIn a strong relationship, you support your partner and are their biggest cheerleader.
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SpeakerYou want them to achieve their goals.
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SpeakerThis support helps to build a strong relationship.
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SpeakerNumber six, you're committed to each other and the relationship Commitment -
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SpeakerThere are two sides of it.
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SpeakerOn one side you have people who see commitment as being tied down or the fun being over.
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SpeakerOn the other hand, you see people who feel joy and a sense of belonging through commitment.
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SpeakerA 2014 study on relationships found that the individuals who saw commitment positively were more satisfied and had stronger relationships.
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SpeakerThat commitment and unwavering care for your partner creates a strong bond of security in the relationship
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Speakersince a lot of insecurities are relieved.
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SpeakerNumber seven, you both have mutual hobbies.
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SpeakerNow this may seem contrary to our earlier point,
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Speakerbut we said to keep your own identity.
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SpeakerYes, but it is absolutely healthy and normal to pick up hobbies that you both like doing keyword both if your partner is a huge gym person and you're
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Speakernot, you may not want to join them on their five am run,
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Speakerfollowed by a one hour weightlifting session.
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SpeakerTalk to your partner to see what interests of theirs line up with yours.
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SpeakerIt could help create some good bonding time for you to help strengthen the relationship. And number eight,
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Speakeryou both contribute to the relationship. Relationships are always two way streets.
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SpeakerNo matter what you're talking about,
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Speakerno one person should always be giving and no one person should always be taking.
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SpeakerNow contribution isn't necessarily always the same.
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SpeakerIt could be contributing love, money,
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Speakeryour abilities or talents.
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SpeakerCan you count on your partner as your teammate?
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SpeakerIf so, you're probably in a strong relationship.
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SpeakerDid these signs make you think of that special someone in your life?
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SpeakerNo matter your relationship status,
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Speakerwe hope this list got you thinking a little bit about your current or next relationship and how you can better yourself to be a strong part of a healthy one.
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SpeakerDid you find this video valuable?
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SpeakerThanks for watching and see you next time.