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SpeakerHey, Psych2Goers, welcome back to our channel.
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SpeakerEach of your views, likes, comments, and shares helps us make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone, so thank you.
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SpeakerNow to the video.
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SpeakerAre you in a relationship? Do you have a crush on someone right now?
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SpeakerAre you really in love or are you just emotionally hungry?
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SpeakerEmotional hunger can be caused by deprivation in childhood.
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SpeakerThose who suffer from emotional hunger usually look to rely on something or someone else to fill a void or emptiness in themselves.
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SpeakerSACAC Counseling describes that emotional hunger can look like love and is often mistaken for it,
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Speakerbut it has the opposite effect on the person it's directed toward.
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SpeakerLove nurtures, while emotional hunger drains the others and leaves them empty.
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SpeakerIf you started your relationship in desperation with only attention and affection in mind, it's best to evaluate if that desire is being mistaken as true love.
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SpeakerSo, how do you know if you're confusing emotional hunger for love?
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SpeakerWell, here are 6 signs that you are emotionally hungry.
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Speaker1. you seek approval and adapt to what others want.
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SpeakerDo you jump to conclusions about what others think of you? Well, if you often determine how others view you, that is a sign of emotional hunger.
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SpeakerFurthermore, seeking their approval and adapting to what you think they want is another sign.
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SpeakerIn reality, you are simply stressing yourself by assuming what others want of you. When in doubt, the best you can do is ask them.
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Speaker2. you give all of yourself.
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SpeakerIf you're emotionally hungry for a relationship, odds are you'll seek it from just about anywhere.
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SpeakerThis means you could be giving too much of yourself when you finally do get a hit of what it is you think you need.
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SpeakerAre you always available for your partner? Do you overly do favors for them at the risk of your own needs?
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SpeakerYou may view that giving all of yourself will ensure the relationship will last.
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SpeakerIn reality, your needs should be met as well. Doing so can give you the confidence needed to lessen your emotional hunger.
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Speaker3. you are dependent on social status.
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SpeakerThose who suffer from emotional hunger may seek out their needs by having many friends. The more the healthier, or that's what they think.
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SpeakerThey may suffer from low self-esteem, so they seek out comfort and validation from a strong social status.
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SpeakerThey may even feel a strong attachment to someone who has high status as a way to have validation through them.
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SpeakerIf their emotional reserves are not met, they believe a high social status could be a fix.
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SpeakerWhile support from friends is helpful, it's also a great idea to look inwards and find what it is you need from yourself first.
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SpeakerIf you work towards having a positive self-image, your emotional hunger should lessen over time.
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Speaker4. you don't have boundaries.
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SpeakerDo you struggle with boundaries in your relationships? This is also a sign.
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SpeakerIt's best to learn to respect your partner's boundaries and set some healthy ones if you don't already have them.
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SpeakerQuality time together with your partner is great, but it's also healthy to be alone sometimes or experience new things with new groups of people.
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Speaker5. you solely use casual **** or substances to meet your emotional needs.
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SpeakerSome struggling with emotional hunger may just be looking for a way to numb the pain of their emotional needs.
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SpeakerThey may isolate themselves or turn to drugs or alcohol as a way to cope.
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SpeakerAvoiding important feelings by seeking certain numbing or thrilling sensations is just another sign of emotional hunger.
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SpeakerAnother way this can show itself is through using casual **** solely as a way to have your emotional needs met.
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SpeakerAccording to therapist Markie Keelan, **** can be the easiest way to trick ourselves into getting our emotional needs met.
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SpeakerWe get validation that we are worthy of another person's time, mixed with endorphins and the pleasure centers of our brain make us feel good.
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SpeakerAnd 6. you're overly clingy.
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SpeakerMany enjoy some love and attention, but if you are overly clingy, your partner may feel suffocated.
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SpeakerEmotionally hungry individuals may show their devotion and affection early in the relationship.
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SpeakerSimilar to giving too much of yourself in a relationship, some individuals can be overly clingy as a way to ensure the relationship will last.
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SpeakerWhile attention and affection are of course a healthy part of a relationship, some can mistake this desire for constant affection and attention as love.
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SpeakerAccording to SALAC Counseling, when a person grows up without love or affection as a child,
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Speakerthat manifests itself into a strong need for emotional closeness as an adult.
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SpeakerTo get this need met, a deprived person may latch onto a romantic partner or even their child.
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SpeakerThe result is an emotionally draining relationship where the victim is constantly having their emotional energy drained by the deprived person.
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SpeakerSo, did you relate to any of these signs? If so, what steps do you plan to take next?
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SpeakerShare with us in the comments. The first step to lessening that emotional craving is to look at your needs and how you can satisfy them.
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SpeakerSelf-reflection is key to having a healthy mind, and with a positive self-image, you can wave a strong goodbye to that emotional hunger that's just eating at you.
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SpeakerIf you found this video helpful, don't forget to click the like button and share this video with someone who might be struggling with emotional hunger.
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SpeakerAnd as always, thanks for watching.