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when was the last time that you thought
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about Attraction was it an hour ago 5
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minutes 10 seconds it's likely that
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other people are thinking about it as
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much as you are here are seven
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psychological things we do that make us
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less attractive number one acting cool
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and distant while procrastination might
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feel good
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it isn't attractive in 1992 two
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psychologists named Marlon and Beach
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were curious about the relationship
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between how many times you see someone
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and how attractive you find them they
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had four women pretend to be students in
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a large intro psych class at the end of
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the semester students in the class were
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asked to rate how attractive they found
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each of the women what the researchers
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found was that the fewer classes a woman
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attended the less attractive they were
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rated by other students the other
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students basically forgot about her I'll
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try and remember this study the next
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time I have to psych myself up to go to
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class number two acting clingy
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it's the classic young love phenomenon
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constantly hanging out together three
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social psychologists from the University
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of California San Diego conducted a
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study on the relationship between
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people's physical proximity and how much
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they like each other the researchers
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made a surprising discovery they asked
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students to name who they liked and
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disliked the researchers found that the
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students most like people were those who
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they frequently met face to face but the
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researchers also found that the students
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least favorite people were those with
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whom they were forced to spend time in
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other words watch out that spending time
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with your crush doesn't end up with you
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getting on their nerves number 3 acting
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as if you don't like your date all that
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much when grandma told you it always
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pays to smile where her words backed up
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by science psychologist Curtis and
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Miller randomly paired participants one
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student in the pair was led to believe
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that their partner either liked or
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disliked them those who thought they
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were liked or nicer and their partners
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ended up liking them more the
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researchers concluded that so called
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reciprocal liking is a self-fulfilling
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prophecy
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if your partner thinks you like them
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they'll be nicer to you which in turn
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makes the whole relationship better
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and the opposite is also true if they
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think that you don't like them
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they'll be meaner and the whole
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relationship will suffer turns out that
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grandma was onto something
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number four revealing too much too soon
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in 2011 researchers told female
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undergrads that their facebook profiles
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had been viewed by male students and
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that they would now be viewing the
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profiles of those guys you can probably
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imagine that the women were intrigued
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the women were split into groups and
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were told either that he liked their
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profile or that the researchers didn't
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know whether he liked their profile the
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women were most attracted to the men who
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didn't reveal whether they liked the
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women why the researchers decided that
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the more the women pondered the
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mysterious man the more he was on their
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mind and the more intrigued they became
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Austin Powers nickname was actually
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pretty honest the magical man of mystery
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does get the dates number five going on
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boring dates two psychologists in
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Vancouver Canada did a study on
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misattribution of arousal which is when
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people make mistaken inferences about
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what is causing them to feel the way
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they do they had an attractive female
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research assistant give male
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participants a questionnaire in the
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first group she asked them the questions
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while they were on a scary suspension
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bridge in the second group she asked
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them while on a lo small bridge those on
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the scary bridge were more excited
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because of the bridge and were more
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attracted to the research assistant and
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more likely to call her later
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on your next date don't just get coffee
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that's boring instead go see fireworks
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or ride go-karts number six
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using cheesy pickup lines psychologists
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who study attraction have identified
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three general strategies for pickup
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lines cute flippant for example your
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place or mine innocuous such as what do
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you think of the music and direct as in
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can I buy you lunch a study asked men
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and women which pickup lines they prefer
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to receive most strategies work for men
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being approached by women however women
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tend to prefer innocuous and direct
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lines over cute flip-it ones
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bottom line groaners aren't attractive
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so now you know
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asking someone did it hurt when you fell
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from heaven is scientifically the lame
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is possible thing to say number seven
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not having a wingman or wingwomen some
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people treat dating like a competition
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but did you also know that there's lots
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of room for cooperation among friends
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having a third party make the
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introduction may be the best strategy of
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all for guys trying to pick up women
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especially in today's dating world where
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there's more choice than ever
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daters have to overcome many hurdles in
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order to catch someone's interest having
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someone make the introduction for you
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automatically moves you past the
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difficult first stage and it makes it
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clear that you're nice enough to have
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friends sorry James Bond but in the real
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world the best romancers work in pairs
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in today's fast-paced dating world
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people are quickly judged on first
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impressions but don't worry all you have
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to do is make sure you never do any of
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these seven unattractive things and
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you'll do fine
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although bringing chocolates never hurts
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either
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