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that you've given us
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now let's continue do you feel that your
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dating life is in a bit of a slump
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does it feel like everyone who asks you
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out has red flags
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are you looking out for all the little
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clues that will tell you whether your
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date sitting across the table
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is a keeper or not the way your date is
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chewing with their mouth open and
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spewing food everywhere
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may be a red flag or maybe
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you've had bigger red flags like if they
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bore you to death or
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can't stop talking about past
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relationships or
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has an odd obsession with cat outfits
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you might be ticking off the red flags
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so much that you miss out on the green
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flags
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that's right there are good things about
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the person sitting in front of you
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so here are six green flags on dating
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you should be aware of
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number one you can talk for hours but it
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seems like minutes
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you can lose your sense of time when
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you're with the right person
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sometimes hours can pass by when a
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lively conversation with a great date
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grabs your attention
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this could be a sign that you genuinely
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enjoy hanging out with your date
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and aren't just checking off boxes to
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see if they're a perfect fit for you
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number two they actively listen to you
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if your date makes it a point to keep up
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a healthy conversation with you
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like remembering to route back to
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certain topics and refers back to points
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you made earlier
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that's a green flag this means that they
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are actively listening to you
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they'll genuinely keep the conversation
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going because they want to hear what you
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have to say
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when you like someone you want to know
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as much as you can about them
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what are their interests what's their
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taste in music what tv shows are they
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watching what kind of hobbies are they
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into
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what makes them laugh you want to get to
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know these things about your date
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because you're interested in them and
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want to show enthusiasm and getting to
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know them better
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if they show that same level of
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enthusiasm and getting to know you
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then that's a very good sign either that
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or
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they're secretly a spy number three
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they're kind to the waiter how your date
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treats the waiter can be a valuable
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insight into their character
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is your date going out of their way to
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complain about your weight or to you
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do they lose their patience with them or
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are they kind
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and patient and respectful of your
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waiter if you pay attention to how your
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date treats the wait staff
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it can give you some interesting details
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about who they are and how they handle
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stress
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even if it's just being patient enough
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to wait for your order of chicken wings
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to arrive
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chicken wings is this making anyone else
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hungry
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number four being around them feels
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natural
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you can get nervous around someone that
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you like that's normal
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but on the flip side if you find you're
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calm and comfortable around this person
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then that's a green flag everyone gets
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some nervous butterflies on the first
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date but if those flutterings in your
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belly give way to a sense of
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ease and comfortability as the date goes
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on
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then that's a very good sign that there
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could be a positive
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lasting spark between you two number
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five
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they're not distracted by their phone if
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you find yourself on a date where the
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other person isn't consistently eyeing
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their phone
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then this is an obvious green flag if
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someone isn't interested in what you're
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saying
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and they aren't honed in on you and the
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date they might bring out their phone to
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occupy themselves
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putting their phone away and giving you
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their full undivided attention
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shows they want to be fully engaged with
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you it shows that the time the two of
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you are spending together
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is important to them and number six
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you find yourself smiling all the time
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did they make you laugh do you feel
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comfortable talking to them
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are they kind to you do you feel happy
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around them
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do you like who you are when you're with
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them these are all types of questions
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you can ask yourself to see if you want
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to go on a second date
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if you find yourself coming home from
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that first date with all smiles that
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don't go away
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then you may have found your match it's
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a green flag
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go do you think knowing about these
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positive green flags will help you on
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your next date
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are there any other you think we missed
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let us know about any green flags for
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dating you have in the comments below
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